- Winona Ryder (via bvllionaire)
Chimamamda Ngozi Adiche, We Should All Be Feminists
The most powerful thing anyone has ever said to me: “You deserve to take up space.”
I haven’t been on Tumblr in forever, and it’s interesting that suddenly— in the midst of whatever I’m feeling right now, I can just come here and write it all out.
College is great, everything I expected it to be. But my classes are really difficult, and I’m not doing as well as I should be. And with all of that, I feel extremely discouraged and defeated.
It’s such a hard transition from home to college. I don’t see my family, my dog, my best friend, Will everyday and it’s hard to cope. Not to mention, I feel like I have so much on my plate, just like everyone else, that no one really had time for me. I feel stressed out and overwhelmed 100% of the time, but who can I really talk to that doesn’t have their own issues going on.
It scares me that I want to do pre-med. I want nothing more than to be a pediatrician. But I’m a business major, so so so far from pre-med. And I want to try and do them both at the same time but it might be impossible. I might have to take summer classes, and I’m totally alright with that, but I doubt my parents will pay for it, I feel like they wouldn’t even support me if I wanted to do it. My dad has this perfect image of a little business oriented family but I just don’t even see myself in the business world. I want to help people, I want to work with kids, actually impacting people.
I’m so conflicted.
When I was a teenager, I was very critical of feminism too. I was a white girl, about to grow up into a world of white privilege, and I didn’t see the point. Then, the workplace discrimination started happening, then the sexual harassment, then the assaults, then the catcalls, then the condescension from men who weren’t as smart or accomplished as me, the sports coach who was too friendly, the male mentor with other intentions, the drunk male friend who won’t leave the room after the party so you can sleep, the car horns blaring, the groping: it all started happening at about the age of fifteen. I started realising that there was a large portion of the population to whom I was as good as chattel: I was an object to be acted upon.
I also started realising that I’ve been a female misogynist my whole life, and had a lot of unlearning to do too. Change starts with eliminating the noxious parts of yourself you have internalised during socialisation in a misogynistic culture. Feminism isn’t just about stopping the abuse of women by men, it’s about stopping the abuse we do to ourselves and others by genuinely beginning to believe we deserve to be treated as less than human."